The Best Valentine’s Day Gifts by Randy Rowley 2/18/11


Around the first of each February, the eyes of men all across the country start to glaze over and many get a panicked “deer in the headlights” look.  What is it that causes such widespread panic?  The end of deer and duck seasons?  After Christmas sales?  Cabin fever?  Income taxes?  No, it’s the dreaded “what am I going to get her for Valentine’s Day this year syndrome!”

Although it is true that some women choose to give gifts on Valentine’s Day, do not be deceived!  This is her day!  For many women it’s bigger than birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, and only takes second fiddle to their wedding days!  And unlike our wedding day, Valentine’s Day gives us an annual opportunity to make fools of ourselves and to do things wrong!

Our opportunities to err are almost endless.  We buy her chocolates and/or take her out to eat and then get accused of trying to make her fat!  We buy her special flowers and find out that she’s allergic to them.  We buy her jewelry and learn it’s the wrong size, color, or style.  We finally get it right and then repeat it the next year, thinking “I’ll hit another home run,” only to learn that that was “so yesterday.”  Yes, Valentine’s Day is not for the weak-kneed.

As I contemplated the odds of giving an acceptable gift this year the idea occurred to me that I had it within my means to give my wife gifts that would long outlast roses, chocolates, and romantic dinners.  These gifts are always appreciated, never go out of style, and are best when given over and over again.  What are these miraculous gifts called?  Although there are many, I think that some of the greatest gifts are truthfulness, understanding, and appreciation.


Throughout his ministry, Jesus made a habit of speaking the truth.  This often involved telling the religious leaders of the day not what they wanted to hear, including calling them such gems as a brood of vipers, hypocrites, and whitewashed tombs.  There were not very many instances where Jesus praised individuals, especially when he first met them.  An exception was Nathanael.  John 1:47 says, “When Jesus saw Nathanael approaching, he said of him, “Here truly is an Israelite in whom there is no deceit.””

Ephesians 4:14-15 says, “Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of men in their deceitful scheming.  Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.”

Speaking the truth in love and having no deceit means no cheating, deception, trickery, or treachery.  To emulate Nathanael means that when your wife asks you how much a hunt is going to cost, we don’t just tell her the guide fee – we tell her the whole enchilada – tip, lodging, gas, and food.  It also means that we also don’t secretly save “our” money to buy a new shotgun, rod and reel, bow, etc.


1 Peter 3:7 (NLT) says, “In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives.  Treat her with understanding as you live together.  She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life.  If you don’t treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard.”

We should make every effort to learn, and periodically re-evaluate, our wives joys, strengths, needs, fears, and aspirations.  But possessing that knowledge is not enough – we must try our best to understand our wives, including the things that don’t make sense to us, such as not wanting us to go on our planned duck hunt and instead to spend the time with her.  When that happens, it’s probably not that she doesn’t want you to have any fun.  Rather, the root cause is probably you haven’t spent enough time with her recently and she just needs to know that she is still #1 in your life.

To understand her also means to recognize when she has had a hard day and when you need to tell her to relax and let you handle things.  Cook for her, do the laundry, draw her bath, or rub her back.  Do whatever you can think of to let her know that you are focused on her and that she’s your top priority.


In Matthew 25:14-30 Jesus talked about heaven and his second coming (his return to the earth).  The parable (a heavenly story with earthy applications) was about a man who went on a journey and left some of his money with three of his servants.  Two of the servants put the money that they were entrusted with to work and doubled it.  When their master returned and learned of what they had done he rewarded them and told them “well done.”

Our wives yearn to hear us tell them “well done!”  It is very easy for us men to take for granted all the things, little and big, that our wives do for us.  Cooking the game that we have killed when she is exhausted after a hard day, continually sewing buttons back on our shirts that our big bellies pop off, and keeping our houses clean despite our best efforts to dirty them up are just a few of the many things that they do to keep our ships afloat.  How long has it been since you told your wife, “thank you, I appreciate you!”

Ephesians 5:19-20 says, “Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs.  Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”  The same principle applies to our wives – we should always give thanks to them for everything!

There are some men who think that saying, “I love you” only means having to give their wives things.  But love is much more than that.  It’s the process of dying to self and by your words and actions elevating the helpmate that God gave you to her rightful place – right by your side.

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