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A Father’s Role by Randy Rowley 6/12/13 ©

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Genesis Chapter 27 tells the story of Isaac mistakenly blessing his son Jacob, instead of Jacob’s older brother Esau.  Genesis 27:27-29 says, “So he {Jacob} went to him {Isaac} and kissed him.  When Isaac caught the smell of his clothes, he blessed him and said, “Ah, the smell of my son is like the smell of a field that the Lord has blessed.  May God give you heaven’s dew and earth’s richness — an abundance of grain and new wine.  May nations serve you and peoples bow down to you.  Be lord over your brothers, and may the sons of your mother bow down to you.  May those who curse you be cursed and those who bless you be blessed.””

As most boys grow up, they long for the approval and blessing of their fathers.  The approval of my father came mostly second hand.  He didn’t praise me to my face often; rather he would sing my praises to others.

I well remember when I killed my first deer, an average sized doe, at the age of 16.  There was nothing special about her, but the way that my dad bragged about what I had done you would have thought that I had shot a 12-point buck!  Dad wasn’t a hunter, but he took me hunting until I could drive.  Although we were rarely successful and really didn’t know much about deer hunting, I look back at those hunts with fond memories.

But, despite all the second hand praise, I still longed to hear my father say, “You did well!”  Dad didn’t say such words very often, so when he did, I loved hearing them.  I knew he was proud of me for what I had done.

Mark Chapter 1 tells the story of the baptism of Jesus.  Mark 1:9-11 says, “At that time Jesus came from Nazareth in Galilee and was baptized by John in the Jordan.  Just as Jesus was coming up out of the water, he saw heaven being torn open and the Spirit descending on him like a dove.  And a voice came from heaven: “You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.””

Notice that God was literally tearing heaven open to tell the world that this was his son and he approved of him.  As Jesus was 100% man, along with being 100% God, I’m sure that his father’s words of approval were just as important to him as our fathers words of approval were and are to us and our words of approval are to our children.

Fathers have a special role in parenting their children.  Just as Isaac was charged with blessing his first born son, fathers are charged with affirming their children.  You must let your children know at a minimum:

  • That you love, are proud of, and approve of them.
  • That before they were conceived God knew them and set them apart.  Jeremiah 1:5 says, “”Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.””
  • That God has plans for their prosperity, hope, and future and not to harm them.  Jeremiah 29:11 says, “”For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.””
  • That they are strong, but real strength comes through Christ.  Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
  • That Jesus is the only way to eternal life.  John 14:6b says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.””
  • That in Christ they have been brought near to God, he is their peace, they are no longer strangers – but citizens, and they are sealed for the day of redemption (see Ephesians Chapter 2 and 4:30).
  • That because they are children of the King they have what it takes to succeed in whatever God calls them to do, but true success only comes from following and obeying God.  Joshua 1:8 says, “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it.  Then you will be prosperous and successful.”

The responsibility that God has placed on fathers to love, affirm, and bless our children is a huge one.  Showing our children that we love them and are proud of them is admirable, but we must not forget to tell them too.  They desperately need to hear it.  They long for our praise more than we will ever know.

When your child makes a good shot at the range, harvests a game animal or bird, or catches a fish, make a big deal of it, even if that shot, animal, or fish doesn’t rise to your standards.  Tell the family, the neighbors, and your sportsmen buddies that you’re proud of your kid.  But, more importantly, tell your child!

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